How to cope with role reversal in a caregiving context?

In order to better cope with changing roles, it is important to respect the dignity of the person being cared for. When caring for an aging parent, one might feel like they're taking on a parenting role and risk infantilizing them. Try to keep in mind that they have life experiences that can't be erased and still have ideas, tastes, preferences, etc. Therefore, when it comes time to plan and make decisions, it's essential to prioritize dialogue and include the person receiving care, as they are the primary stakeholder.

Another way to lessen the impact of role changes is to share care duties with one or more other people. This could involve professional home care services, or help might come from a neighbor who shovels the driveway, grocery delivery services, or a family member who lends a hand. The important thing is not to stay isolated and to introduce help into the two-person relationship to protect the initial roles.

Using humor and lightening the situation can help reduce the heaviness associated with role changes. Obviously, it’s not about ridiculing the person losing autonomy, but some caregivers report that making jokes or gently teasing the person they care for can lighten or even defuse difficult situations.

We offer you some suggestions to maintain the original relationship with your loved one. Of course, there are other ways, and you might already know some that work for you and your loved one.

• Reminisce about memories with your loved one.

• Continue to create special moments that have nurtured the relationship in the past and can continue to do so in the present.

• Look at photos or watch videos together.

• Go on outings that are still possible to do with your loved one to nurture the connection.

• Engage in conversations on topics that still connect you.

Source: https://www.bonjourf.com/articles/la-grande-inversion-des-roles